Number 編號：Mon A1

Convenor 召集人：David

Participants (including Bumble Bees) 參與人員：David, Gail, Dick, Linda, Enana…

Insights 討論內容：

# It’s about choosing

            -Peace doesn’t land on me anytime, but if I allow it.

            -Image of “peace not landing on me”: pigeon shit

            -Peace is not an end to achieve, it’s a journey.

            -I use 2 Reminders: 1.someone’s being(ex. Shu-Fang), talking to her,

                                             2. people in FCP program

            -leaving this OS group is going back to the real world.  But if you choose the peace, you’ll look different to those who you coach.

# Confusion about controversial issues, ex abortion

            -Dick’s map if peace & harmony (see attached)

- When people asking me questions:

n          Answering too fast cut the process

n          Coach = mirror, to reflect to them

n          Wait & ask “what new has come to you”

n          Ask them what you needs, no matter they have the skills to fulfill them or not

# Decision = cut you off

            - decision is not choice

Choosing wars, betrayed > struggle to fight or not fight, manipulatory

Invitation of wars could be only my interpretation

Problem with someone else? 

Or, what in me is out of balance?  It’s more about me than about others.

 Can the warrior know peace?  The issue is, who is it? In a warrior situqation, to be other than a total warrior is to be not oneself.

War or spirit – the world needs both.

To be fully myself is sometimes to be a warrior; whatever is one’s “totem” on the medicine wheel – you need to be that to be real.

Choosing peace all the time is choosing to be in the sweet spot of a wave you are surfing.  If you stop to think about it, you’d be in real trouble. The sweet spot is the cutting point, but often there is no cutting point.

In Europe you Take a Decision. There are always choices but they are not always considered. 

Choosing is a stop on the way to decision.

In choosing you have to take responsibility for your choice – how to do this

Cannot just say I voted for someone else.

I embarked on a new path before I knew it was available to me; my stomach tells  me that it’s right or not

Look at what you do, you can identify what choices you made before.

Harrison: I never got a job that I went after and never went after a job that I got

Human cells decide much better than the mind can

“Calling in well”  I’ve been sick and going to work and now I’m well and not going to work

Harrison: I’ve never been fired or divorced that it wasn’t the best thing that ever happened to me. 

Mind wants to hold on to things

Larry: never been married or fired that it wasn’t the best thing that ever happened to me

Harrison: I’m in the middle of whatever is going to happen to me next before it happens; In 2001 had nothing planned, nothing came up or came up and got cancelled.  As if stuff was being cleaned out of the way as if something was going to happen.  It happened on 9/11.

Peacemaking in a very different way – integrated everything I had done before

Decisions have very little to do with any of it except to take responsibility for the obvious – ended up in books, etc.

Laura: to college at age 19, classmates had motorbikes and she got one. Now I’m in control, symbol of independence, a whole person. Could have a boyfriend not just for vehicle but could have a relationship without strings.  Now uses “in the flow” as the image, prepared for the next steps.

Harrison: Jan 1, 2001 – full stop – big roller waves coming in, waiting for the right wave.  SFO has The Maverick every 6 or 7 months.